Here are somethings I have noticed in this experience...
1. Not everyone is happy for you, even the ones you really think should be. Even the ones who cheer you on initially, sometimes stop rooting for you. Weight loss is a full mental take over and not everyone gets it because not everyone is where you are now. They are used to the bigger you, used to the failures you've had before. This is the reason I keep my efforts of sharing to a minimum,. this is why I dont openly discuss my progress on my normal social media pages. I have a page and its wonderful that no one knows me, I can be open and honest and express whats going on in my life with people who have the same struggle. I have also discovered TwinBody and I am loving that app as well! Your family, those closest to you will root you on and encourage you, perhaps forever, and some only until they are sick of your weight loss process.For me talking about it and writing about it is a big part of keeping on track. An idle mind is a hungry stomach in my experiences.So talking to people and sharing stories and rooting other people on is sometimes needed for your mental stability during these times. Find a group, outside of your friends to experience these adventures with. Your family may not be jealous, they may not even mean to sound mean with certain comments, they are simply not on your journey...
2. Those who I have watched lose weight without a support team go thru depression.... This may be a very far fetched conclusion, but in what I have watched I have seen associates break down during these times. I want to relate the pattern to surgery but I wont put a bad name on surgery, it works for a lot of people. But you STILL need a support system. In non surgical weight loss there is a process, its long its grueling, its constant talking to yourself and motivating yourself or needing others motivation. In surgery it seems you are fighting twice as hard, mentally just like those non surgical, but you are also fighting your body, not only against hunger, but against the body's functioning changing to adhere to the new stomach mass. Body rejections of food, actual physical pain and damage-- and when your body doesnt feel good your mental abilities to fight off depression suffer as well. Again these are my own far fetched conclusions watching people I know and watching them fight depression and cry on live feeds so that other people will pray for their strength..
3. Your goal is hardly ever satisfiable... yep made up that word, just keep reading.... As a larger person I acknowledge that my initial plan to loose 80 pounds before I turn 40 seemed completely appropriate and I was excited... I am now at 81lbs lost and I look nothing like I want to look. I am now aiming for another 66 pounds. My goal now is to be under the "surgery" line-- that line that they say if you are over X amount of pounds you qualify for surgery-- you know that 100 pound thing... that is now my goal, to NOT be qualified! Technically I am only 29 pounds away from that but I grouped that with not wanting an "obese" BMI... so yes I discovered your BMI could say obese and you still not be qualified for the surgery (when I say THE surgery, I am speaking on them all, pick yours)... And once I reach that goal, it could possibly change... OR it could change before I ht that goal according to my look
4. Speaking of LOOK. Everyone doesn't weight the same that looks the same and everyone who weighs the same may looks completely different. Body shape, height, there are different things that effect how a person looks in "comparison" to someone else. Ive done this a LOT, the body comparison thing. Before I began my journey I used to look at other and see how much bigger they were than me--- I still have a similar habit. I would look and say oh I want to be this size and in all honesty not know what I even really look like. Dont ask others for their weight information because yours wont look the same...Dont judge yourself by someone else body
4. What do I even look like? Here is a big thing I have an issue with-- I still see the old me, I still see the over 300 pound me. I still look at clothes as though they cannot fit me, it still shocks me when I can fit into something I swear I couldnt... The mirror and the scale can tell me all day that I have lost weight and I still fear trying on anything smaller than what I had been buying all these years.
5. We all have the same fear-- FAILURE...its not like we want to give up, we dont... Its not like we look forward to failing, cause we dont... What it is, is not succeeding after giving our best...but if we keep it up and are doing our best then we have already succeeeded, when we got up and decided to do those 70 jumping jacks this morning and 65 squats and a 15 minute at home workout--- when I got up and did that this morning I had already succeeded because I WAS NOT doing that 5 months ago...
6. SUCCESS-- this level takes on sometimes some great things and sometimes some of the nastiest personalities out in people.... There are the group that worked so hard and they are always up beat and ready to help the next person succeed...there people are like a God-send to others, they are their goal! Then there are those who "forgot" where they came from, they are nose high pessimist. They spend their time telling you what isnt going to work because only XYZ worked for them. These are people who find every opportunity to fat shame other people. Stay away from these people.
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