I KNOW there are a ton of blogs and articles on the relationship between Randall and Beth, so I thought hey might as well put my 2 cents out there as well right?
Okay so lets start with manipulating relationships. Please do not lie, we ALL have done this. We know our husband/wife/fiance/BF/GFs weaknesses and we use that to get what we want period! If you THINK you have never done it... think about something as simple as a meal. All day you have wanted one meal in particular, maybe even a week, but your significant other doesn't want it or you know they want something else... you find a way to talk them into that place. "Oh how about XYZ"... now you knew you wanted that all along, you went thru several different options knowing in the back of your mind what you really wanted, this happens a lot with new restaurants you saw somewhere on your FB timeline that serves some exotic meal you want to try and your partner is a burgers and fries type of person. You know this, you use this, we manipulate each other. We do this with kids as well! Making them think they really want something. We do this with clothing, "Ooo you look good in that suit/dress" (because the outfit they want to wear isn't what you want them to wear).
Now, in this episode, we saw how Beth felt she was manipulated or taken over by Randalls "charm" BUT, Beth sometimes is the same-- lets look at the proposal, after SEVERAL proposals, she finally said yes, AFTER making it HER way... she turned down every thought he came up with to propose to her- jumbotron, dancing and singing, everything that he thought and put some effort into ... she turned down. She wanted it her way.... and yet the episode made that very minuscule in showing manipulative behavior. She is no pushover. Lets think back... one of the reasons he really wanted her by his side at that dinner is SHE has the ability to manipulate an entire room! Think back to is campaign ... he KNOWS her skills are getting what she wants when she wants. The proposal wasn't such a small thing after all, it shows her strength and her determination to do things the way she wants them done. (I wont even mention the way the wedding vows were done, yes it seemed loving but she took over in that instance as well)
YES she has had that mans back thru anxiety attacks, thru adoptions, thru finding his father, all that... Thru breakdowns and wild ideas and rides. I'm not taking anything from her at all. She IS a backbone and HIS biological dad told her so and she took that to heart and she knows she is. Most women in relationships ARE the backbone when it comes to the emotional status of the home. NOT that our partners don't have our backs, but that the nurturing side of us makes sure the home is okay mentally and emotionally. I know I'm not being "politically correct" I'm just being honest from my point of view. There are men who make sure you are good emotionally and most men should. But if she had been with Randall, what 7 years before marriage, she knew his quirks, his strengths his weaknesses, all that. He was literally an open book from the very first date. --- As is she was a hard, go-getter, take no shit woman from the very first date. And while they hint at the "Pearson charm" during the show, as strongly willed as her mom was and as she has been throughout these seasons, I only see her giving up or bending to a certain extent.
Things only going right when she bends.. thought this was interesting, and its because I COMPLETELY UNDERSTAND where she is coming from... I have felt that same way, I have. I have felt that I have bent several times in my relationship. I can sit and point out just like she did, the times along the years that I have felt I had to put what I wanted to the side... or times when I have had to hold my tongue because he is asking me to be nice. Times when I worked from home or did overtime just to compensate certain things in life. Sacrificing "me time" oh we wont even get started on that.. I have had a very similar argument happen in my house because I brought up all the times I sacrificed and all the times my feelings were hurt or thrown to the side... AND THEN IT HAPPENED... he placed his list on the table in front of me as well... his virtual list of his own sacrifices, his own times when his pride was injured for my happiness. Where his "me time" was sacrificed for me....
So while I KNOW everyone is looking at the show like DAMN she gave up everything for him, I am TRULY hoping that they show his version of the past as well. Because a lot of times when we speak from hurt and bring up memories, we tend to only focus on our own hurt, our own sacrifices, our own half-memories...
(SN: she should stick to her guns on dancing, it makes her smile it gives her pleasure, his election was his choice, she asked him to quit and he didn't, he now needs to make those sacrifices)
(Another SN: Why the hell do they need a sitter when they were at the hospital in another city for 2 days, where were the kids then? And WHY don't y'all pay google so that everyone can see everybody before bed? I mean you're living in a very nice home you can't tell me y'all aren't up on technology. So many holes in the "needing someone home with the kids" part of this it irritates me... the challenge isnt the kids at all in all of this the challenge is actually setting standard times for work versus home!)
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